What Do You Do For Fun?
A colleague of mine wrote a fun blog using Greek Dancing as a metaphor for the practical application of Posture Alignment Therapy.
Postural therapy provides a natural alternative to pain relief WITHOUT medication, manipulation or surgery. We help our clients restore the body back to it's blue-print design and regain a PAIN FREE Life and Living. But, we don't stop there. Once you are pain free, we encourage you to get back to life and play!
Pete Egoscue, founder of The Egoscue Method is fond of asking "What are you going to do for fun today?". When you're in a chronic pain cycle it's easy to get tangled up to so you can't even entertain the idea of fun or play any more. And some won't try because of "stinkin' thinkin'". I hear all sorts of things like:
- I'm too old
- I'm not coordinated enough
- What if I make a mistake?
- I'd be too embarassed
- What will other people think?
I'm always encouraging my clients to seize the day and "do" life by participating in things that make them happy. The problem I run into most often is FEAR. It amazes me how people limit the potential for fun, joy and new experiences because of fear.
So what are you afraid of? The reason I run into most is the fear of doing something poorly. Fear is a fail safe. If we don’t try, we can’t possibly fail. Self-protection like that is a joy sucker! In fact, Pete Egoscue recently tweeted,
“Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly”.
Amen to that Pete! I totally know what you mean.
To me, anything worth doing poorly means that you can't succeed if you don't try. To do something new we have to surrender to our humanness. But honestly, who's going to do anything perfectly the 1st, 2nd or 3rd time for that matter. No one!
Problem is, if we never try, we can't fail. But we can't succeed either. When we get inot a mindset like that we never do anything at all? No much of a life is it?
My personal "Greek Dancing" is ZUMBA. For me Zumba is about having so much fun you forget you're exercising! Although I was a highly accomplished fitness instructor, I had no background in dance. I was intimidated to try. Salsa? Samba? Me? But it looked like fun and I was game! So many people are afraid to try Zumba because they're afraid they won’t do it perfect or worried how they'lll look to other people. That's normal. I assure you I wasn't perfect, nor do I consider myself to be there yet, but boy is it fun!
Like the line from Pixar’s Dory in Finding Nemo “just keep swimming, swimming, swimming", Matt's article begs us to put aside fear, lack of control, and just seize the day and get out there. You’ll get it eventually. Brilliant! I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
What Greek Dancing Can Teach Us About Life by Matt Whitehead: Former Director, Egoscue Portland
If you are a regular reader of my blog, you know that from time to time I find and post articles that are about something other than chronic pain, physical health, or Egoscue because I believe everyone can benefit from them. This article is another example of that kind of article, but it also can be directly applied to chronic pain, physical health and Egoscue.
Egoscue clients will see this applies to them in many ways. Some people come in to see us because they have chronic knee or back pain that is interfering with life and their goal walking in the door is to become pain free. After the first session we have usually talked them out of that goal and into something much more fun – getting back to their favorite pastime. This could be running, hiking, skiing, golf or any other activity, the important point is setting their sights on something they used to love but gave up years ago (usually because pain or “getting old” interfered with it). This article speaks to how they are going to get back to that activity (obviously while doing Egoscue to restore their posture).
The second group of people who I believe this article applies to is people who are in our Egoscue University either as students just starting their education or recommended affiliates who have their PAS Certification. While our education process is in-depth and detailed, we also push people out there and tell them to figure it out on their own. Some students feel like we don’t give enough answers and feel like we “throw them to the wolves.” While I don’t feel it’s that scary, we do want our students to learn how to question, critically think, learn from experience, “get in line”, and we believe this will help them thrive.
Read the article below and let me know what you think about it. This comes from Micheal Neill a well known success coach to movie stars, music moguls, business leaders and Royals.
We’ve just finished another live weekend at Supercoach Academy here in Los Angeles. Our guest lecturer was my friend and mentor Dr. George Pransky. While I learned enough in our classes and private discussions to fill these tips for months, one of the things which stood out for me was a story in which he shared how he learned the art of Greek dancing.
“What my teacher told me,” George said, “is that all you need to do is get in line. If you fall out of line, get back in line.”
When George pressed for more details about the specific steps involved, his teacher explained that as long as he stayed in line as best he could, he would pick up the steps naturally as the dance progressed. While he would no doubt have numerous stumbles along the way, before long he would be dancing comfortably and well.
This is reminiscent of how we learned to walk and talk. We hung out with other walkers and talkers, made our mistakes without dwelling on them or consciously trying to learn from them, and before we knew it, our parents couldn’t shut us up or get us to keep still.
This is also in direct opposition to the way many of us try to learn as adults. We want to have the entire process of whatever it is we are trying to learn explained to us up front, and then we want step by step instructions for implementing it. Generally speaking, this is because we approach learning as an exercise in “mistake limitation”.
While we theoretically understand that we will not do most things well on the first try, when we are learning something new we seem to keep score like golfers – whoever makes the least mistakes wins. Instead of “getting in line”, we try to avoid getting it wrong. And unfortunately, at some point we stumble across the ultimate strategy for mistake limitation and failure avoidance:
If we don’t play, we can’t lose.
The only downside is, if we’re not careful we can wind up without much of a life. This points to another thing George mentioned in passing that jumped out at me:
Success is more a function of what you take on than the results you achieve.
To better understand this, imagine two tennis players. The first has won 90% of his matches over the past year; the second is struggling along, winning only 45% of his matches. When these two players wind up head to head in a tournament, which one is most likely to win?
While at first this seems a ridiculously obvious question, the real answer depends on who they’ve been playing over the past year. If our 90% successful player has been playing predominantly against beginners and children while our 45% player has been playing on the ATP tour, the less “successful” player has a considerably better chance of winning the match.
So what do we do with this information? What is the equivalent of “getting in line” when it comes to the rest of our lives?
For me, it all comes down to our state of mind on a moment by moment basis. Whenever we approach life from our natural state of clarity and well-being (“in line” with our innate health and wisdom), we will make our way through things as best we can, adapting as we go.
From time to time, we will lose our bearings (“fall out of line”) and get caught up in our thinking. In those moments, we obsess about keeping score (i.e. “how we’re doing”) and life seems hard. But as soon as we regain our bearings (“get back into line”), we resume the process of happily stumbling towards higher levels of success and achievement.
Worst case, we enjoy the journey. Best case, we arrive at some level of what people call “success”. Either way, we are having fun, learning heaps, and dancing each day from a place of comfort and well-being…
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